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This is a story about 6 strangers who—by a stroke of luck or with a hand from above—met each other on the road towards their first marathon.  It is written by Hector Yuzon, the owner of Secondwind Running Store, which was what led the six runners to find each other.

MICHAEL “BOB” ANTONIO, BIB NO. 019
MAYEN MORALEDA, BIB NO. 181
MAI MAI LIM, BIB NO. 152
BIC “FIONA” FERRERIA, BIB NO. 112
THEA TORRES, BIB NO. 273
RIKI QUIROZ, BIB NO. 220

FROM HECTOR YUZON:

Some 4 months ago, one of my best friends came to me and said:

“Hec, gusto ko mag TBR marathon – can you train me?”  Without thinking twice, I answered my friend Bob: “Yes.”

Even to this day, I will never forget how Neville helped me get back into the life I used to have. I had taken a hiatus from sports for 2 years. Part of it was from knee injury and part of it was enjoying being injured.

I took Bob as my ticket to paying it forward for what Nevs had done for me.

Bob is your everyday average yuppie. Has an 8 to 5 job – a marketing guy for an electric company, and managing to balance training with his work and social life. Little did i know that he also invited to the marathon training a fellow TBR participant, our friend, Mayen. What used to be 1, was now 2.

– Bob –

Mayen is another marketing exec from a liquor company – pretty much the same scenario as Bob. Both driven and determined to train and finish their first marathon; both had been running on and off on fun runs. And the TBR marathon was their everest.

– Mayen –

During the first training run for the TBR marathon, I bumped into an old friend, Mai. Secondary grade teacher, and recently singled – looking for a breath of fresh air in her life and seriously eyeing the TBR Marathon to do just that for her. She is also a skilled cook who bakes on the side when she has the time.

– Mai (my son’s first preschool teacher, the best one he’s ever had!) –

Same week after the first group run, I got a phone call in the shop. Her name was Fiona and was inquiring whether we had a training group that does group runs – similarly enough she was also a participant in the TBR Marathon. So I told her there was none – and later on asked her “How serious are you in training for this?” and she said “very serious.”  Fiona, a mother of 1 and a college history professor – who just wants to keep fit and lose weight and will use the marathon just for that reason.  The original 2, had now become 4.

– Fiona –

Pushing on to our first long run, one of our teammates Mikey also included his fiancée to the training group (also doing the TBR run), Thea. Thea who worked for an IT company, worked for the finance dept – and was looking at the marathon as a goal for her new found passion: running.

– Thea –

Out of nowhere, and by some coincidence another old friend, Riki texted me from out of nowhere saying that she was doing this marathon and needs advice / training from me. Riki, is a sales exec from a leading cigar company and is also trying to lead a fit and healthy lifestyle, and the marathon was her way of starting it with a bang.  Let me correct myself, I used to have 1 responsibility – and now I had 6.

– Riki –

We started off to follow the program we all did, each had a projected time of finish, some had faster pace than that of the others. We did leg drills, easy runs, speed workouts and most importantly (not to mention the most fun) the long runs.

I was extremely pleased when I noticed that the chemistry of the 6 all clicked. That made my job a little easier. I’ve had numerous training sessions with different guys, but training with a group of women was more fun because they always had food!

– Hector with buttery cupcakes from Mai’s kitchen! One of the rewards of marathon training –

Through the course of the training, while they were all having fun and giggling, I always reminded them that running is a lone sport. And, on marathon day, they will do this alone. As fun as it is to do group runs, when it comes to a marathon, more often than not youll be alone as we all have individual goals.

We all learned a great deal throughout the TBR training. It’s one of the many beauties of running. You will know yourself more in sevaral ways; one in a literal way, you will familiarize yourself through the hardships of trainings and know whether you pushed your body too far or of you can go further. Second is knowing yourself metaphorically. One can achieve a certain zen during long runs, and since you spend a lot of time on the road, you begin to think about your life, where you are, your direction in life, among many things.

I have always thought that any race starts at the last kilometre. Who among us still has fuel in their tanks. Who can dig deep. Who can still push at the last kilometre. I forgot the most important thing: who ran with the most heart.

Some learned the importance of focus in training, and how abstaining from alcohol and quitting from smoking will greatly help their performance in the course of this training. Some also learned that during the course of training for a marathon – their body is the most important tool (second to the running shoes of course). Running shoes are mainly tools to help you run but they cant run by themselves to the finishline. It’s all you.

The training was quite extensive and demanding. It took time away from our friends and families – but always fueled by glory to finish their first marathon.  Through them, I rediscovered one of the most important things in endurance sports: running with heart.

Thea was such a trooper, and focused on getting the job done. Fiona was a machine and followed the training to the T. Mai was very committed and just muscling through the pain and hardship. Mayen was focused and determined to finish every workout. Riki managed to adjust and change her life around the sport. Bob, a former triathlete, dug deep none like any other. These athletes are one of the finest I’ve ever trained with. They may not perform at a national level, but they sure are focused and determined like one.

Mayen and Thea lived all they way in Valenzuela; Mai from Paranaque and Riki from Antipolo – driving to QC for the trainings was a feat in itself. More importantly each and every one of them pushed themselves to wake up in hours that they never saw – being in constant motion for 30 plus kms hour after hour. One step over the other, no matter how hurt they were mentally, physically, and emotionally, they kept moving forward. Moving at a progressive manner, inching their way to glory inch by inch, one kilometre at a time – with a simple motion of moving forward, you move further away from where you were.

We’re all familiar with the saying that ‘your first marathon changes your life forever’ – but from what i witnessed from the 6 of them, signing up for your first marathon is a commitment to a life of change.

They asked me how much would I charge for the training, I told them A) im not a certified coach, I just followed a marathon program and it has worked for me and I only train friends, B) I do not charge, I just asked them to pay it forward; I told them that the only payment I need is the same dedication that we put into training them, will be reciprocated through their focus and dedication for the marathon. And that whatever I or running has thought them, that they also teach this to other runners who want to sign up for their first marathon.

4 months of hard work – infinite moments of quitting, through dead toe nails, waking up when most kids are just about to come home from clubbing, ending long runs by lunch, heat training in unforgiveable temperatures, months of no parlor (for the girls). Hundreds of kilometres logged in their running shoes, forming and shaping after their foot, countless times times struggling to win the battle of pulling their tired bodies out of bed only to ask for more suffering in training. Running thru tears as the training got tough. 1 calorie after another burned and earned at the same time. Numerous painful showers from chafing, countless times of blisters (you wouldn’t believe how many times I heard: I need to go to the parlor). Thousands of reason used to motivate them – funny how mikey and I never ran out of things to say to them. But one thing sure worked for the girls, “If you keep running and moving, youll be inches away from that bikini body!”

To know that each and everyone of them crossed the finishline smiling, to see that sense of fulfilment in their eyes – makes every second training with them worth it.

How many people can lose sleep, be exhausted from training but at the same time can claim fulfilment in helping 6 people train and muscle through blood, sweat, cramps side stitch, dehydration, malnutrition and tears to finish their first marathon?  How many can claim to have trained with athletes that are all heart? Mikey and I can.

– A tearful finish: Mai and Hec –

– Fiona, Mai, and Mikey –

Special salutations also to teammates who also helped during the course of the training: Migs, Timmy, and Paolo Jazz.

I am very grateful that our friends trusted me and Mikey in their training but I am more grateful that we had all accomplished what we had set out to run after: the marathon. I thank God for having planned all this, for Secondwind – without which all of us would not have crossed paths.

Hubby and I celebrated our 10th Wedding Anniversary last June 3.  10 years!  Such a momentous occasion in our lives called for a grand date over a sumptuous meal followed by a romantic exchange of expensive and meaningful gifts…NOT.

– 10 Years Ago –

We decided instead to celebrate 10 years of marriage over a simple dinner at Greenbelt 5.  After all, as agreed a few months ago, our gift to each other would be NYC Marathon on November 7.  Honestly, I couldn’t ask for anything more.  (Okay, maybe I could’ve asked for a Marathon Package instead, such as Chicago in 2011, Berlin in 2012, Paris in 2013, and so on and so forth)

This got me to think about the many similarities of marriage and marathons.  Here are 7 Reasons Why Marriage is Like a Marathon…

1. It’s no joke. Marriage and marathons are serious business. Do it only when you are 100% sure you are ready.
2. Cheaters are losers. Sure, no one is looking and you can get away with it, but know that the only loser here is you.  Methinks I’ll invent a device that can be attached to the laces of the shoe to track adulterous partners.  Good idea?
3. Expect a few road bumps, or pot holes, or blisters. It’s not completely smooth sailing.  There will be challenges along the way.  Make sure you’re strong enough to overcome these problems.
4. It’s fun when you have the right partner.  It’ll suck if you’re with the wrong one.
5. It takes commitment.  Don’t expect to be successful if you don’t put in your time and hard work.
6. Be ready to compromise and sacrifice, too. Happy hours and long nights out with the boys will have to be reduced when you start serious training for a marathon.  Happy hours and long nights out with the boys will have to be reduced when you get married.  Right, girls?
7. Your heart must be in it. You gotta be happy doing what you do and being with the person you love.  Embrace the distance and marathoning.  Be constantly in love with your partner.

Happy Anniv to the hubby! May we have many more happy years—and miles to run—together!

TBR Dream Marathon is in the papers today! Check out Philippine Daily Inquirer, Page G2…

Last May 30, 2010, Tessa Prieto-Valdes, our energetic and animated host (who ran 10k prior to the program), also wrote about TBR Dream in her column in PDI. Click HERE to read the article. Thanks Tessa!

Thank you to Smart Parenting for featuring me in their “Mom We Love” section of their May 2010 issue…

They asked me to name 10 of my favorite things related to motherhood. With running inextricably woven into my life, running items found their way into the list too…

This is the open letter of Reylynne Dela Paz to me as posted on her blog: The Runvocate.  Reading it gave me goosebumps and almost brought me to tears.

In her thank you letter, Reylynne basically encapsulated everything we hoped TBR Dream Marathon would be to our runners.

If other race organizers had wish lists for ample hydration, marshals, marketing campaigns, etc.  Our wishlist included all those and more.  We prayed that our runners, through our regular Bull Sessions and Bull Circles from February to May, would bond so that come marathon time, they would help each other along the way.  We hoped that the idea of community—Dream Chasers, cheerers, volunteers, and family—would work and empower the runners to cross the finish.  Last but not the least, we wanted the marathon to mean more to the runner than just running 42km.  In Reylynne’s case, it symbolized her triumph over the ghosts of last year and a celebration of her newfound strength.

FROM REYLYNNE DELA PAZ, BIB NO. 90

– Reylynne with her “Kuyas” Brian and Lito –

Hi Jaymie,

They say that what’s more important is not the destination but the journey. My TBR Dream Marathon proved this true.

Until now, I am still overwhelmed with extreme joy everytime I think of the TBR Dream Marathon. When I talk about it with friends and other runners, I don’t talk about my finish but the experience. Although I was happy with my finish, what was more significant was the atmosphere during the run. I liked it that there was no competition or anything of the sort. All of us, while journeying towards the fulfillment of each of our dreams, were also journeying alongside each other. Everyone wanted nothing but to see everyone cross the finish line without any injury. We’d all encourage each other along the way and that was so amazing. I felt humbled to be with the rest of the runners who were so driven to fulfill their dreams. When I had cramps at Km 30 and could hardly run, what encouraged me aside from the cheerers and my two buddies was the motivation that I saw in the eyes of my classmates. I felt not only that we were a community of dreamers but a family. We celebrated each other’s victory and sympathized and helped each other, including the volunteers and chasers, in times of pain.

I could not stop talking about the marathon. I told my running friends that it was the best race ever, with all the support and very organized logistics, I could not think of anything better.

– Looking strong early in the race –

Although my family was not able to join me in Nuvali, they celebrated with me in finishing my second marathon. It was big deal for them because it proved once again how strong and healthy I am unlike last year when I was suspected of having thyroid cancer. The first quarter of 2009 was one of my darkest moments. As a breadwinner, I dreaded hearing that news that I might have cancer. The fear of who’d take care of my family and all set in. It was also the time when I went through another personal experience that made me so depressed. That time, I was drowned with the desire to live and to die at the same time. I went through several tests that weakened my body to rule out the big C. After a few months, thank God it was negative. Thank God I discovered running and got the chance to be part of the first TBR Dream Marathon.

When close friends asked me about my secret on how I was able to finish the marathon faster than the first one, I told them it was because of the two running buddies who pushed me beyond my limits and kept me company from Km 21 to the finish line. I first came across Kuya Lito who requested me to pace him. I said yes but warned him that I might ruin his target time. He said his target was 4:00, I told him mine was only sub-5. But he said ok. So we ran a kilometer together and met Kuya Brian. I did not know what his target time was but he decided to join us or Kuya Lito and I decided to join him.

– with Lito and Brian –

I learned that Kuya Lito was a competing runner during his high school days but stopped due to a doctor’s advise who said he could not run anymore because his knees could no longer handle it. So he set aside running for quite a while but decided to reunite with it recently and proved his doctor wrong. Kuya Brian, on the other hand, is a runner and a cyclist. The TBR Dream Marathon was their first.

After running a few kilometers together, I told them to just go ahead because cramps wanted to join the TBR Dream Marathon too! It was so painful I wanted to stop and just walk the rest of the race. But they stayed with me and helped me deal with it until it’s gone. They encouraged me to keep on running. They jogged with me not minding how it would affect their target time. They’d also remind me to slow down on downhills after I told them I have scoliosis which was why I had a bad run during Condura. In short, I had new-found Kuyas who took good care me and were more conscious than I was that I be the first woman finisher. I loved the way we fulfilled our promise that whatever happens we’d cross the finish line together. When Kuya Lito was feeling the pain in his knees and asked us to run ahead, we also did not leave him. We walked with him so his knees could get some rest. Kuya Brian was the strongest among us. After crossing the 32 km post, he started to coach us until the finish line. He’d tell us when to stop to rest and when to run at what pace so we could finish well. He even reminded us to fix up as we were approaching the finish line so we’d look good on camera.

I heard him say countless times that pain was just in the mind and I realized he was right.

– All for one, one for all! –

I owe that strong and fast finish to them, to my classmates, to the volunteers and organizers, to Coach Jim and to you.

In this run, I gained not just a wonderful medal and finisher’s shirt, loot bag and souvenirs but also fresh perspective and friends.

I don’t know how to thank you enough.

Reylynne